The Power of Now (NOT!)

So many people are talking about the power of NOW.  How being in the NOW is a solution to all their problems.   NOW is the only truth, NOW is the place of power, NOW is eternal, NOW is all you have, make NOW the primary focus of your life…

Now, I want to say, that for most people this is bad information.   I am not saying that it is true, or false, only that it isn’t helpful for most people most of the time.   So let me explain why I say this.

Our world (most people, maybe not you) is living mostly in the vibration of victim.   Look around and you will see all the blaming and all the “Reasons” why people don’t have the lives that they want.   Look to yourself, do you have the life you want?  Do you feel truly empowered to create it?

Most people that I talk to are not empowered to create their lives (at least before coaching /grin.)   Most people (maybe not you!) think that they can do anything but feel differently.  The feeling is that they are stuck somehow.  Most don’t even dare to want what they want.

Consider the explosion of the “Secret” a few years ago – and all the teaching and support for Law of Attraction(LOA.)  That information would not have spread like wildfire if there wasn’t a pent-up desire for people to have more, or be more, or do more in their lives.   This means that a whole lot of people don’t have the life that they really want.

The wave of the Secret has passed with only some residual people still trying to teach the “Real Secret,” or the “Keys” to the secret, or the “missing link” to the secret … but mostly, the Law of Attraction is passing from fad into history (I am not debating truth or wisdom of LOA.)   People are going back to their lives, LOA teachers are having to find a new message to get anyone interested.

I teach LOA.  I agree that we can be attractive to what we want or we can be repellant to what we want.   But there is something more to LOA than wishing and hoping.   And it usually comes down to doing something, facing something, confronting something, growing something … truly understanding why you have what you have … and doing what you have to DO to create something else.

LOA was good in that it gave people some hope and moved them to want more in their lives.  It allowed them to consider that they might be settling for something rather than creating (Attracting) what they wanted.

LOA didn’t work for most people because they didn’t become empowered.  Generally speaking, it failed when people started relying on the Universe or the “Cornucopia of the Gods” to do the leg work rather than taking personal responsibility for creating what they wanted.

You see, the progression out of Victimhood isn’t reliance on the Universe, it IS personal empowerment, personal responsibility.  It is becoming the creator in your live and of course using universal laws or divine guidance/support.    So the way out of Victimhood is Empowerment.

With empowerment, one learns that they can create their lives.  They create the context that their life shows up inside of … and thus all situations become steps towards what they are creating.  Empowerment is the antidote to victim.

However, empowerment isn’t  the end of the road.   It is just a waypoint.  If one gets really good at creating their lives, they might want to ask the question … what is this all for?   What is the deeper meaning, what is the point of all these things that I am creating?   How do I appreciate my life even more.    And thus, even empowerment brings about a new crisis.   The antidote to this crisis is surrender.

Once you know that you create your world, it becomes a possibility to surrender to something larger than yourself.   You still know yourself as a powerful creator, you still know that you can create what you want; you can never be a victim.  But now that you have the knowing – not intellectual, but in your body – that you can be or do anything, you are ready to truly “be with” what is.  Now you won’t have to fight to stay in the moment because of all the things that you want  to be, do, or have.   You won’t have to escape from the victimhood of your life into the NOW.

So the progression is this:  Victim -> Empowerment -> Surrender (NOW)

Going from victim to surrender and bypassing empowerment isn’t really possible for most people.  It is a trick, a distraction, an escape from the now into the NOW.

What is the message of NOW for most people?  It is enjoy, appreciate, enter into the NOW and you will not NEED anything else.  Wanting more creates anxiety and pulls you out of the NOW.  Wanting to improve your life situation creates your anxiety and being NOW will remove your anxiety.

Just be here now, avoidance may get you nowhere, but at least you will feel better. /sarcasm

Striving for “being present without empowerment” is a crutch.   You must know yourself as powerful before you will ever rest comfortably in the NOW.  You are not supposed to be comfortable sitting in your chair when your house is on fire!   You are supposed to do something about it.   Most people don’t see that their life is on fire – or more, that it is dead, and asleep.  The discomfort they feel is supposed to motivate them to WAKE UP and CREATE, not be happy in the smoke.

Let me know if I can help you anywhere on your path to NOW.

Love and blessings,
David