How Paradise becomes Tuesday
You can cross an ocean to reach something extraordinary and be walking past it a week later, wondering about dinner. On what familiarity quietly takes from us.
Writings
Teachings, essays, and ramblings. Newest first.
What Is Your Life Practicing?
We’re halfway through the year. Not metaphorically.
When I Have What I Want, I’ll Be Happy
Acceptance. Aim. Action. Delight. Are you waiting?
Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Stick (and Why Nothing Is Wrong With You)
Every January people do the same…
Why We Repeat the Same Heartbreak (and How to Stop)
Ever feel like your “picker” is broken? You know, that feeling after another relationship crashes and burns, or when the person you thought was…
The Tribe You Never Met Is Controlling You
Let me tell you about…
The Trap of Always Getting Better
There’s a moment I see a lot—a client says: “I’ve done so much work on this.
Confidence Isn’t the Cure – Honest, Tender Truth Is
You ever have that moment… maybe at work, maybe even at home … where something in you just…
Ebb and Flow: The Whole Thing is the Flow
We all want to be “in the flow.” But most people only mean the “ good” part…when things are easy, progress is obvious, and life feels generous.
The Power of Starting Over
March is a transition month—winter fading into spring, a time of renewal.
Why Being Selfish Might Be Awesome for Others
When you hear the word selfish, what comes to mind?
Growth and Power: Why We Gather
There’s something extraordinary about choosing to step away from the rhythm of daily life.
Fighting the Wrong Fight – Why You Stay Stuck
If you’ve ever found yourself struggling to change something in your life—your weight, your relationships, your career—you’re not alone.
The Drift – The Invisible Force Running Your Life
Let’s cut to the chase: most people are drifting through life and don’t even realize it.
The Gift of a Hug: Embracing Connection in Daily Life
If you know me, you know this: I love hugs.
Excerpt from "The Courage to Be Imperfect," a speech by Rudolf Dreikurs
I have found many, many who try so hard to be good.
Safe Harbor
I want to discuss a fundamental skill, tool and value in couples relationships.
The Power of Now (NOT!)
So many people are talking about the power of NOW.
What We Feel and What We Think Doesn't Matter
Try this for controversial: What we feel and what we think doesn't matter.
On Being Helpful
The most helpful thing we can do for others is love them where they are and model what is possible by living our own lives more fully.
Self Acceptance
Self -acceptance means we stop suffering by our own hand .
Self Acceptance And My Body
I was outside in the cold weather in my bathrobe and bedroom slippers emptying Clorox bottles into my pool system.
Self love may be difficult
Self love is a bit of a misnomer. Why do you need to love yourself?
Commitment
I used to think commitments were things I gave to other people so that they could hold me accountable for something.
Personal Growth Can Be a Distraction
I will never forget my first experience with personal growth.
How can we be perfect and have so many shortcomings?
Before I begin, I want to dismiss some semantic arguments about the notion of shortcomings.
Healing Our Aloneness
I have concluded that the belief that we are alone is one of the deepest wounds that our modern society is faced with.
Need vs. Needy
One can be alone and not experience "lonely." The state of 'alone' is a factual event; It can be objectively measured.
Past, Present and Future
Our memory of the past is just what we say it is.
How does the brain make sense of our world?
The subconscious mind must first sift through an average of ~2,000,000 bits of data per second to select "important" data and screen-out "unimportant" bits of data.
Self-Acceptance
Self-Acceptance is not “love your garbage.” “Self-acceptance” is considered to be one of the most important attitudes you can bring to any personal-development work.
We need balance - Life is Dualistic - Dualistic is Messy
How many people know what I mean when I say we live in a dualistic world?
Human Feeling Broken
Human Feeling Broken Let me make one observation about being human...
Self-acceptance means accepting that I am human and having reasonable expectations.
When I say “self-acceptance,” I mean to acknowledge that I am human and an acceptance of what it means to be human.
Who are you in the big picture?
Imagine a small circle the size of a penny.
Deliberate Harmony
I created a company called Deliberate Harmony.
Acceptance
Acceptance is not about being a doormat, or about settling for anything -- it is about seeing what is, and not fighting with it, not wanting it to be different.
Touch
Our first communication in the world is being touched.